I don’t understand why so many GLBTQ people feel limited by their sexual identity. It seems like heterosexuals are really the ones limited to duality and strict gender conformity, whereas GLBTQ people are free to reinvent themselves in new genders and genres. How about a pep talk for the homo team?
My girlfriend is almost always late. For important events she runs 15-20 minutes late, for events she considers unimportant she could be as much as 1-2 hours late. I tell her that it shows lack of consideration and respect, she replies that’s their problem and that she is running her life on her schedule not theirs. Frankly I’m embarrassed by her behavior, what can I do to get her be on time? I’ve tried everything I can think of.
My lover wants to get married and I don’t, she thinks marriage makes sense and that it is the most practical solution to meeting our needs both financially and emotionally I see that it has all the responsibilities without all of the privileges. She has been married before and I have not. I am happy to arrange our financial assets in other ways as joint ownership or as a trust but I am uneasy about the whole archetype of marriage. I’m afraid my lover will leave me if I don’t marry her...
Which is the argument of opponents to gay marriage? Easy, not to change the tradition, the traditional marriage, one does hear this every day and it is the principal argument of the opponents, religious or not.
This argument is not only false but research has just proven that gay marriage is as traditional as straight marriage because it was celebrated by the Christian church in the past.
I have trouble saying no, especially to my girlfriend. I was raised to be pleasant and a people pleaser and I hate disappointing anyone, especially her. I find myself saying yes or maybe when I really want to say no in the first place. It’s usually no big deal, but my girlfriend has started calling me on it. Do you have some advice or tactic I can use to help me say no to begin with, and mean it?