Dear ~S
Thanks for reading and commenting!
Labels are limiting and finite. The sexual evolution of human beings varies and labels are used to temporarily define or express where we are at that moment. I once identified myself as a bisexual woman, but now identify myself as a lesbian. Not all bisexual women become lesbians. Some become totally straight, others continue to identify as lifelong bisexual women.

The sexual identification of many may not mesh with actual sexual practice. There are women who identify as bisexuals who have never actually had a significant love affair, including a deep sexual relationship with another woman. There are women who identify themselves as lesbians who haven’t slept with another woman. Labels are descriptive and limited. Love is (supposedly or ideally) infinite, unconditional, and blind, including gender blind.

The variance of human emotions and sexual identity is limited only by our imagination, emotional and sexual integrity, and experience. Have you ever had your heart broken by a lesbian who loves another woman more than she does you? I know of many lesbians who have had their hearts broken by bisexual women who valued men over them. The world is sexist and many lesbian women have decided that other lesbian women were the best choice for a true love partnership for them. Lesbians choose other lesbian women because that is what they desired.

Bisexual women may choose men, other bisexual women or lesbians as possible love matches. You chose both because that is what feels true for you. In an ideal non-sexist world we all would be able to love others without gender bias, judgment or approval. The possibilities are nearly limitless for the adventuresome lover. Lesbians are on the other end of the speculum. They have decided that they will or can only love other women. Some of them love bisexual women, others find that an unacceptable match for reasons of their own.

I realize that bisexuals make up the majority of LGBTQ population. I am not a bisexual nor would I personally ever consider dating a bisexual woman, unless I felt that I was in love with her. The most important element for me in a potential lover is the electrical, magical, overpowering weak in knees, elated in the soul inspiration that hits me like lightning.

I applaud your brave loving spirit. You are a pioneer in the world I dream about. I just told one of best friends last month how in a future life I was going to be a bisexual omnivore instead of the vegetarian lesbian I am because I have missed out on so many wonderful possibilities. However, in this lifetime I remain a true steadfast vegetarian lesbian. To thy own self be true.

Respectfully,
Sappho