Being trans* is not easy for many reasons. Sometimes acceptance is hard to find. There are so many questions, so many what ifs. And I battle against those every day. But the hardest thing for me personally is relationships. I have amazing friends and a great family, but sex, love, connections: those are separate beings. The fact is that label designates an existence outside of the realm of normal experience, even for those in the LGB community who also step outside of those boundaries. If a lesbian dates a transman, what does that mean for her identity? If a straight female dates a transwoman, what does that mean for her identity? Or how does any other combination of trans* person and significant other affect that partner's identity? It takes a strong person to be comfortable enough with themselves and society to date a trans* person.
Poetry is a large part of my life, and not just writing it, but reading, watching, exploring it. It can be used to capture so much feeling, and I wanted to share a few spoken word pieces which reflect on gender by some great poets: Andrea Gibson, Miles Walser, and Alysia Harris and Aysha El Shamayleh.