A friend recently suggested I write about hate. It’s such a hard topic, something we as LGBTQ people encounter on an almost daily basis. The level of hate one encounters, though, varies by location. Places with laws protecting the community such as California and much of the Northeast tend to be more accepting. People also vary in their acceptance of the community based on their level of education (generally those who have experienced higher education are less likely to harbor prejudice), their religious beliefs, and their social class.
Recently I went to help out at a camp one of my friends works at, demonstrating horse care. When she was proposing that I come to help out, she told her boss my name was Cael and used male pronouns. But she did know me before I started to transition, so she is still getting used to the pronoun change. She slipped up, using she instead of he, and her boss caught the slip up and proceeded to ask her what the deal was.
Big first in Texas! The University decided to propose gender-neutral restrooms on all the campus.
Public restrooms are a necessity for any establishment, be it a restaurant, movie theatre, or a museum. Most of these restrooms, though, lie within the existing gender binary of men and women. This creates an issue for anyone who identifies or presents outside of the gender norms.
Most of what I have come to find out about being a transman, I have heard from my friends’ experiences. I am lucky enough to have several friends who have gone through or are going through the same transformation I am. It is good to have those guys to talk about the reality how things are instead of relying purely on the internet for information. The next step in my journey is to find a counselor who can provide my T letter.