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Thursday, 06 September 2018 22:48

Bethany Meyers: “My dear bisexuals, I love you, stand proud and loud for our identity.”

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Bethany Meyers


Back from the MTV Video Music Awards, well-known fitness and dance instructor Bethany Meyers faced a comment telling her that she was a “disgrace to the gay community”. As a result, Bethany shared an inspiring message about her bisexuality and queer identity.

Through a post on Instagram, Bethany Meyers made it clear that neither her bisexuality, her queer identity, nor her polyamorous marriage to a queer person born in a man's body could be questioned.

She talked about those who tell her that she isn't "enough gay" (it seems that this ridiculous notion is fashionable at the moment).

She said: "It's not the first time I’ve heard comments like these and the hurt cuts deep. Especially since they don’t know me or how I have struggled with my queerness and gender identity over the years."

Bethany told she grew up in a family with a religious education in the American Midwest, that is, where she was taught that LGBTQ people “were sinners going to hell” and explained that coming out was a “terrifying experience because ‘love is love’ didn’t exist in my vocabulary for the majority of my life.”

"I shouldn’t have to validate my queerness to any of you," she said. "I shouldn’t have to explain myself, but I will. Mostly for everyone out there who feels the same. I married someone [actor Nico Tortorella] who was designated male at birth. I married them because I trusted them more than anyone else in the world. I knew we’d never get a divorce. I knew we’d be loving parents."

She also added: "When I get comments about not being “gay enough” it hurts. Aside from the way my marriage may look to others, I’m pretty gay. I’m attracted to women, I date women, I sleep with women, my friends are queer, I feel/think queer, I identify as gender fluid / non-binary, my partner the same.”

And the best for the end: “LGBTQIA contains a B. It’s not a pit stop. Bisexuality doesn’t go away just because you’re in a same-sex or opposite-sex relationship. It’s real. It exists. Bi people often feel left without a community – too gay for straight and too straight for gay – or only accepted by a community based on the gender of their partner," she said.

“I’m over it. My dear bisexuals, I love you, stand proud and loud for our identity.”

Bethany Meyers offers us a very beautiful message about the diversity that is and must remain our greatest pride in this community.


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