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Friday, 09 September 2011 23:37

Freedom vs Equality

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As most of you know, I am a lesbian, at least that is the label that I claim and how I live my life. I do not attempt to hide who or what I am, I live my life openly and I really don't care if you approve of my lifestyle or not. Who I love or how I love them is really none of your business, however our society seems to think otherwise. That is kind of the point I want to make. I am not an activist, while I do voice my opinions on LGBT issues, I am not out fighting any battles.

Here in the US we are currently fighting for marriage equality, which is a noble battle, and a right I feel that we should have. I want to be able to marry my partner and to adopt her daughter as my own, but is it really that important? Most of you are probably saying yes, it is, but I am going to disagree. Our getting married is not the end all be all of the world. We still live together, we have the freedom to be together in public. While it may not be easy and we still have to put up with hate, our lives are not otherwise restricted.

Think about it for a minute, we could live in a country where it is illegal and punishable by death to be openly queer. There are still countries that allow 'curative rape' of lesbians, where families will allow their daughters to be gang raped by men in order to cure them of something that can't be cured. This sickens me to no end and I do not comprehend how people can treat their fellow human beings like this.

As a country we have a long way to go, but we have made great strides in the last thirty years. Yes there is still hate and bigotry, but there always will be. We as a community do not have equal rights under the law, but we at least have the freedom to live our lives. True it may not be without fear, but at least we know that we have protection under the law from certain atrocities. Think about that and remember it is not a 'gay' rights issue, it's a human rights issue.

For the straight people who read my blog, it's not about wanting special rights, it's about a group of citizens that want and deserve to have the same rights that you have, nothing more, nothing less.

For my LGBT family and friends, you need to remember that it could be worse. So, the next time you want to bitch about your freedom and equality, stop and think about how lucky you actually are, especially if you are one that can not hide who you are. Change will come, but it will come at it's own time. In the mean time, enjoy the freedom you do have.


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