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Life,Sex & Relationships

Saturday, 16 February 2013 18:51

Love, Support & the Status Quo

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job-search

 

Dear Sappho,
My girlfriend has been unemployed for some time now. I think she is tired of looking for work and has secretly given up trying to find a job. I am worried about our status quo and maintaining the same quality of living we had before she was laid off. I fear we will lose our house if something doesn't change soon. It is true that she supported me for years while I had personal problems, but she made 2 or 3 times more money than I do. Supporting her will not be financially possible for me at this time. I am sure if she tried a little harder we could make ends meet. I feel as though my world is falling apart and with it, our love. Any advice to save us?

Saturday, 09 February 2013 00:37

Not Enough Cuddling or Flirting?

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 not romantic

Dear Sappho, 

My girlfriend is not romantic at all any more. At first she was but for several years now - she has treated me more like a roommate than as a lover. No more kisses, cuddles, flirting or even intimate talks. I feel stuck and don't know how to get her to communicate. I'm not even sure she likes me anymore. Every time I try to talk to her about it she tells me I'm being silly. Do you think we can overcome such an impasse and where do I start?

Couple-Heart

 

Dear Sappho,

Do you think it is possible to love more than one person at the same time? Is it moral or reasonable to feel that way? I am not talking about merely lust and besides I have lots of self-control. Sometimes I even confuse myself with my feelings and yet my feelings seem to be real. Do you think I should work on controlling my feelings more so I can eliminate or change this feeling or just let myself feel whatever I feel and be all right with it, I don't want to hurt anyone - including myself.

Sunday, 13 January 2013 00:45

Being Gay Was So Simple Before Gay Marriage

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lesbian marriage

Dear Sappho,
I have an uneasy feeling about all this gay marriage equality. Being gay used to be more simple. No lifetime vows were required, just flowers in your hair and a few simple lines of prose. Now the tedious question of morality has raised the bar. What do they expect us to do? I'm afraid marriage would not only change (ruin) my relationship, but it would also alter my identity as a lesbian. They don't call it gay for nothing you know. Do you think gays should embrace marriage or is it just another trick to get us to conform?

Wednesday, 21 November 2012 21:58

What is True Love?

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true love

 

Dear Sappho,

What is true love? How do you know when you’ve found it? How would you define your true loves? How can you definitively know that your love is true when looking at it from the past, the future, on the side, or in the present? Is such a love destiny or chance? What type of love is truer than true love?

Wednesday, 07 November 2012 10:00

Lesbian Visibility Butch or Femme

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bound

 

Dear Sappho,

What’s the story on butch femme gender roles within lesbian relationships? Is it mandatory, is it discussed, chosen and is it normal? I don’t know if I’m butch or femme, I consider myself androgynous and to tell you the truth I am uncomfortable when I see extreme caricatures of either.

Saturday, 06 October 2012 20:11

Passionate Bisexual Lovers

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Violet Trefusis Vita Sackville-West

 

Dear Sappho,

Do you have any passionate examples of bisexual love between women?? Please tell me a good one.

Saturday, 29 September 2012 18:10

Honoring the Loss of a Beloved Spirit

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lost love

 

 

Dear Sappho,

How did the ancient world deal with and honor the loss of a loved one who has died? We believe in an afterlife, which many believe is linked to a reward or punishment system. Do you believe in karma or reincarnation? I just lost a beloved pet and am pondering loss, death and mortality.

Grieving

 

 

Friday, 31 August 2012 21:22

How to Survive Republican Out-laws

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Republicans-vs-Democrats

 

Dear Sappho,

My girlfriend’s parents are Republicans and unfortunately we visited them the week of the GOP Convention. Their racism and ignorance of the budget issues was astounding, but their hatred of President Obama and taxes was shocking. I said some things I regret and now I’m wondering how to repair this political rift since I intend to have a very long relationship with their daughter who agrees with me by the way. I call them my outlaws because we aren’t actually married but how can I survive my Republican in-laws?

Tuesday, 28 August 2012 19:44

Rosie O'Donnell Married Michelle Rounds

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rosie o donnell michelle rounds

 

 

 

Rosie O'Donnell married her fiancée Michelle Rounds.

Friday, 24 August 2012 00:00

The Art of Making Love

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art love

 

Dear Sappho,

How is it that some women know exactly what to say and do to make you feel loved and supported? How does one learn to express affection, communicate with charm, and comport one’s self with grace concerning love. Is this something you can teach or is it an innate talent and gift from Venus? How can I elevate love to an art?

Friday, 17 August 2012 00:00

Lesbian Tones Of Flirting

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tones wave

 

Dear Sappho,

I’ve noticed that every time my girlfriend talks to one of her friends the tone of her voice changes. She sounds like she is flirting to me - but she denies that she is flirting or that she has any feelings like that for her friend. Do some lesbians change the tone of their voice when flirting? How can you tell?

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