My lover wants to get married and I don’t, she thinks marriage makes sense and that it is the most practical solution to meeting our needs both financially and emotionally I see that it has all the responsibilities without all of the privileges. She has been married before and I have not. I am happy to arrange our financial assets in other ways as joint ownership or as a trust but I am uneasy about the whole archetype of marriage. I’m afraid my lover will leave me if I don’t marry her...
Which is the argument of opponents to gay marriage? Easy, not to change the tradition, the traditional marriage, one does hear this every day and it is the principal argument of the opponents, religious or not.
This argument is not only false but research has just proven that gay marriage is as traditional as straight marriage because it was celebrated by the Christian church in the past.
I have trouble saying no, especially to my girlfriend. I was raised to be pleasant and a people pleaser and I hate disappointing anyone, especially her. I find myself saying yes or maybe when I really want to say no in the first place. It’s usually no big deal, but my girlfriend has started calling me on it. Do you have some advice or tactic I can use to help me say no to begin with, and mean it?
I am a lesbian in my thirties who has been is in a committed relationship for about three years now. My girl friend and I live together, we are very much in love, and we spend most of our time together, but - I’m missing time alone with my old friends. I miss just hanging out with the girls.
My girlfriend is a little insecure about me going out without her. I have tried to tell her it’s healthy for lesbians to hang out with other lesbians, but she believes it could lead to extra curricular sexual or romantic activities. I think it will lead to less co-dependency and more freedom to have, make, and keep friends. Can you help me try to convince her that a Girls Out Night is good for both of us?
After falling in love with a bull who broke his heart because he is straight, a Swedish bisexual pig seeks a gay partner for serious relationship.
Just want you to know that some of us are more romantic at heart in like others, and romance is intangible. My lover flirts with me using sexual and nonsexual nuances through out the day. In her loving way she intellectually and emotional teases me, and I love every minute of it. She doesn’t need to buy me expensive gifts or bring me flowers or jewelry often. I like that she doesn’t take her eyes off me when I talk to her.
She is interested in everything I say and do. She actively listens and participates in everyday conversation and daily activities. She makes me feel special, she does not judge me or put me down. I think you are right that you get the love you give, because I love her the same way in return.
How can I get my lover to be more romantic? I know she loves me and is committed to our relationship, but I long to be wined and dined. Valentine’s day is next week and although I’m not expecting a romantic evening I’m dreaming of one. Do you think love and romance are different entities or different phases of a relationship? I have tried to tell her how I crave more romance in our relationship but she doesn’t seem to get it.
My Heart Wants Romance
Dear Young Lovers
The archetypes of human behavior are models that are used as symbols, stereotypes myths, and epitomes. Carl Jung believed that archetypes are “ancient or archaic images that derive from the collective unconscious.” Marriage is such an archetype. When one enters into marriage one enters into the mainstream of how marriage is defined as a social obligation, expectation and course of direction. It is a moral path putting the marriage, the children and the survival of the marriage beyond the value of the individuals involved. Many aspects of marriage have been misinterpreted and used as methods of domination. Including the creed that everyone must get married and conform to the archetype of marriage.
I have finally come to the realization that I am a an. I know I’m not the only one. Please ask your readers if they are they inclined to submit or willing to surrender in order to placate or please another? If everything you do or say appears to be wrong in the eyes of your significant other, you may be henpecked.
My girlfriend uses harassment and persistent nagging to get her way 98% of the time. I still love her but I don’t know how much longer I can live with her. Counseling failed to solve our disputes. In fact she acted like a self-righteous parent while detailing all my faults and none of her own during counseling. Our counselor pointed out that her behaviors appeared authoritative and dominating to no avail. She quit counseling and I continued, focusing instead on my self-esteem.
I would like this woman who I have loved long and hard to just live and let live. I long for her to appreciate my contributions and not dwell on what she considers to be my flaws. I’m always wrong and she’s always right - without exception ` from the way I eat, talk, walk, or conduct my day, She puts words in my mouth and reads thoughts from my head, none were which I thought or said. Is this considered mental or emotional abuse? Is it possible to break this pattern or should I just look for a new place to live while I still have any self-esteem left.
Today, in the headlines of the Village Voice, you could discover the 100 most powerless New Yorkers oppose to all most powerful lists which are always about rich and famous people.
The Village Voice has decided to talk about people like you and me, and among them we find the number 22, Tiffany Cocco, a young lesbian homeless.
Jealousy in homosexual relationships is really not much different than jealousy in heterosexual relationships, is it? Are lesbians more jealous than straight women? Are gay men less jealous than straight men? What do you have to say about jealousy?
Shades of Green