Another week, another column, and another question...Hello my beautiful lezies, it's me again...Going through your personal baggage and helping you clean house. There's something about spring cleaning that brings relief, but along with it comes that moment where we must face ourselves and the situations that have bogged us down for years...
My solution for the maddening obstacle? Simple, bring me your junk, I'll sift through it, conquer it, and even send you a box of chocolates(okay maybe not the chocolates) But none the less I will help to make those burdens lighter by offering you a new and different perspective on the issues that are plaguing your life....
I want to talk about dating and how gender affects the process. Generally, dating is hard. There are so many aspects which go into a relationship: compatibility, willingness to compromise, similarities in values, and attraction, just to name a few. It is a struggle to find someone who lies within the parameters of what you are looking for and to fall within what that other person—who might fit all your hopes and dreams—is seeking.
People have certain expectations going into a relationship, and it is hard to compromise those expectations for yourself or to set yourself within those your partner might have. So what do people expect from me? Or really anyone? I feel like expectations have a lot to do with how you present yourself. If you present yourself openly and honestly, what you see is what you get, and you don’t have to worry about that conversation down the road of Hey, I think I might want to be a man or I have kids or any other form of surprise a partner might reveal once comfortable in the relationship.
Hello my lovelies, I'm here once again to answer all of your questions.
So lay your head on my couch, let go of your inhibitions, and share with me all that bothers you.
This week I have gotten so many questions that it was almost too hard to decide which to answer in the column this week. But rest assured, If I don't answer your question tonight, I will definitely answer it at another time.
Most people know the “enemies” of equality, those figures who make it their mission to maintain the status quo. Their voices are usually loud, frequent, and damaging. They use lies, intimidation, misinformation, and fearmongering to keep us in the closet and our heterosexual counterparts concerned about our “agenda”. They are plentiful. Leaders of the LGBTQ movement cry out against these ideologues on a regular basis and when we discuss why our country is so behind in giving LGBTQ citizens basic rights, we often have fingers pointed in their direction. But when we look closer and examine the facts, we find a group of people who hold an ideology much more damaging to LGBTQ equal rights and protections under the law. The most dangerous ideology does not rest with the extremist; rather, it rests with the enablers; the moderates and well mannered liberals who support the status quo and conservative ideology one inaction at a time.
Friday night I found myself headed for Myrtle Beach. I got a wild hair up my ass and craved desperately for peace and quiet and the only place I know that can calm my thoughts is the beach. It's something about the sound of the waves crashing on top of one another that ease my wild spirit.
Standing on the balcony of my tenth floor room and watching the moonlight dance on the surface of the ocean lead to me craving to write. So I slipped into my favorite pink and black knee socks and an ex's old sweatshirt and pulled out the laptop.
As I’m writing away my phone frantically starts vibrating disturbing my glass of red wine. My first thought was to turn it off but instead I decided to read the text. Which lead to me checking my email and reading not one but several letters from some of my readers.
Just know my sweets that I will never leave you hanging...at least not for too long...