Just want you to know that some of us are more romantic at heart in like others, and romance is intangible. My lover flirts with me using sexual and nonsexual nuances through out the day. In her loving way she intellectually and emotional teases me, and I love every minute of it. She doesn’t need to buy me expensive gifts or bring me flowers or jewelry often. I like that she doesn’t take her eyes off me when I talk to her.
She is interested in everything I say and do. She actively listens and participates in everyday conversation and daily activities. She makes me feel special, she does not judge me or put me down. I think you are right that you get the love you give, because I love her the same way in return.
How can I get my lover to be more romantic? I know she loves me and is committed to our relationship, but I long to be wined and dined. Valentine’s day is next week and although I’m not expecting a romantic evening I’m dreaming of one. Do you think love and romance are different entities or different phases of a relationship? I have tried to tell her how I crave more romance in our relationship but she doesn’t seem to get it.
My Heart Wants Romance
Dear Young Lovers
The archetypes of human behavior are models that are used as symbols, stereotypes myths, and epitomes. Carl Jung believed that archetypes are “ancient or archaic images that derive from the collective unconscious.” Marriage is such an archetype. When one enters into marriage one enters into the mainstream of how marriage is defined as a social obligation, expectation and course of direction. It is a moral path putting the marriage, the children and the survival of the marriage beyond the value of the individuals involved. Many aspects of marriage have been misinterpreted and used as methods of domination. Including the creed that everyone must get married and conform to the archetype of marriage.
I have finally come to the realization that I am a an. I know I’m not the only one. Please ask your readers if they are they inclined to submit or willing to surrender in order to placate or please another? If everything you do or say appears to be wrong in the eyes of your significant other, you may be henpecked.
My girlfriend uses harassment and persistent nagging to get her way 98% of the time. I still love her but I don’t know how much longer I can live with her. Counseling failed to solve our disputes. In fact she acted like a self-righteous parent while detailing all my faults and none of her own during counseling. Our counselor pointed out that her behaviors appeared authoritative and dominating to no avail. She quit counseling and I continued, focusing instead on my self-esteem.
I would like this woman who I have loved long and hard to just live and let live. I long for her to appreciate my contributions and not dwell on what she considers to be my flaws. I’m always wrong and she’s always right - without exception ` from the way I eat, talk, walk, or conduct my day, She puts words in my mouth and reads thoughts from my head, none were which I thought or said. Is this considered mental or emotional abuse? Is it possible to break this pattern or should I just look for a new place to live while I still have any self-esteem left.
Today, in the headlines of the Village Voice, you could discover the 100 most powerless New Yorkers oppose to all most powerful lists which are always about rich and famous people.
The Village Voice has decided to talk about people like you and me, and among them we find the number 22, Tiffany Cocco, a young lesbian homeless.
Jealousy in homosexual relationships is really not much different than jealousy in heterosexual relationships, is it? Are lesbians more jealous than straight women? Are gay men less jealous than straight men? What do you have to say about jealousy?
Shades of Green
I don’t understand how some cultures, religions or people can tell other people whom they can or cannot love. Here in America the text of the second section of the Declaration of Independence reads: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."
Article 1 of the UNIVERSAL DECLARATION OF HUMAN RIGHTS states: All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of humanity."
How could there possibly be any legal question or argument to prohibit the right of some to love?
Joan of Heart
Just because more states are starting to allow Gay marriage, it doesn't mean you should just rush right into things. There are more things to consider than just whether or not your new spouse will love you 'til death do us part.
Now instead of just tossing your crap out on the front lawn, you have to worry about your new spouse getting mad and chopping off your jewels.
Better start sleeping with a steel chastity belt...and make sure it's locked tight.
Dear Sappho Claus,
Please send me a woman to truly love. I am visualizing a passionate Goddess or, at least a High Priestess of Love. I’d prefer if she were a Muse who is also amused by me. Someone who is smart, sexy, charming, and evolved. A woman who loves the arts.
Be sure she is someone who loves me (almost) as much as I love her. Make her someone who highly motivates me to be better than I already am, although I assure you that I am already a very good girl.
I am the only unmarried childless member of my large family and I am expected to give gifts to many nieces, nephews etc. who usually don’t even bother to call and thank me. I’m considering going gift free this year, what do you think? Should I feel guilty?
I am losing my faith in love and romance. I have not been in a relationship for a long time and am losing all hope of ever being in one. I suppose I could go out and meet other women but I get sad when I see happy couples out and about enjoying themselves. It’s even worse at the holidays, I am hiding away more and more and fear becoming bitter. I doubt if you can help me, mostly I just want to vent.
It is now sure, Sara Gilbert is in couple with Linda Perry. During The Talk, tv show she co-hosts, Sara indeed confirmed her relationship with Linda.