Sometimes in our evolution and learning about love, and understanding how to let love flow through us, we make rash decisions and sabotage ourselves without consciously understanding or knowing why. When you left your girlfriend without warning in the tricky manner that you did, it felt like betrayal to her. As much as we human beings invariably hurt the ones we love, we also undoubtedly hurt ourselves worse. Here we have lovers who apparently wanted to stay together - but were unable to communicate or reach an understanding.
If one has not previously succeeded in having successful intimate, personal love relationships, one may be stuck in a pattern of low or different emotional expectations. Emotional expectations vary greatly. Low emotional expectations include living separate lives, lacking quality intimate or personal time, commitments, or focus together. The couple that arrives in different cars and never touch, or the couple who fought the whole way here; both display low or different emotional expectations.
But what if one has very high emotional expectations? The discrepancy in emotional perspective appears even bigger. I advocate a simple direct approach where threats are unspoken and promises are inherent, this implies trust. We learn our lessons in love best when we are honest and sincere. It creates a fair level playing ground for proving love that love can be true.
I wish you both the best