Sometimes we believe that our role as a partner in a relationship doesn’t involve being the support, back-bone, or even lecturer to the better half. Quite the contrary… Who better to lovingly nag you into doing something you refuse to do but should do but your girlfriend?
Relationships are a fickle thing. It requires a lot of give and take, the issue arises when it must be decided who gives and who takes. In a perfect world a relationship would run like a well-oiled machine; each piece knowing its place and being content with its role no matter how small. But when dealing with people egos get involved, personal self-worth is questioned, and sometimes being in the background can wreak havoc on a relationship.
No one holds all the answers but I hope that my bits of advice can aid in figuring out the complex inner workings of this great beast we call love. If you have any questions that you would like answered, no matter how big or small, do not hesitate to contact me.
Sometimes people need a “Come to Jesus meeting”. For those who don’t know what that means it is just simply saying that a person needs a serious no holds bar reality check. These are those last resort intervention type meetings. Although I write this column offering my advice it is ultimately up to the person posing the question to decide whether or not they want to take the advice I have given.
So why do I do it? Why do I post every week on the slim chance of someone actually listening? I do it because it is our responsibility as part of the lesbian movement to engage in the idea of community and help each other. Some paint, some lobby, some start organizations, and some preach on soapboxes on street corners. I write.
What do you do for the “cause”? Think about that as you enjoy another installment of, Just Ask Me…Spoken and remember that if you have a burning question that you need answered, contact me.
Lesbian relationships can be fraught with all kinds of angst. Some of it is unearned and a lot of it is self-induced. Being friends with exes. How many of you just had your blood boil at the very thought of that? When someone is good friends with an ex, where there is that unbreakable bond, then that should be respected. I always wonder about the self-esteem of people who worry about their partner being friends with an ex. If the ex is an unhealthy person and causes your partner grief and sorrow then by all means step in with some advice. Advice being the key word.