Hello, Lezzies Spoken here once again.
Today we have a huge question so I am just going to jump into it. K?
I recently began talking to someone for about a month and some change. I like them for a lot of reasons being their personality and outlook on life etc. Well if i was to label myself I would say I am a lesbian and the person I am speaking to is a Male [FTM (Female to Male)]. He has told me a lot about himself so far but we didn’t get to the part of being a FTM, which now he doesn’t even use that at all, he calls himself a Male. [He also clues in that he is a FTM, like he says he don’t use T shots and he kind of sounds like a girl, i don’t want to say emotionally similar to a girl but he kind of is] I didn’t touch on that topic with him or even ask questions because this is new to me and I don’t want to offend him in anyway, I don’t even know how to go about it. [When we first spoke he said, you know I am a male and you are a lesbian, then he told me he can only speak to people that respect his gender]I speak to him as if I know he was born a male. [I was just going to go about this whole thing like, ok I no he is a FTM but now i will respect him for the man he wants to be.. but where does that leave me.. being straight? which i am not*]I am also WORRIED about how our sexual relationship will work out, I don’t think he got any surgery done down there but the way he speaks about down there it seems as if he did.
Okay kids, let's skip along to Relationships 101 class. All those who think relationships are easy raise their hand.... hmmm,, I think I spot a lone hand sort-of in the air in the last row. Gooooood on ya. Glad you find them easy. Perhaps enlighten the rest of us as to how to make them easy. Or I'd even be satisfied with easier.
After a six-month relationship I find myself single again and have done some serious thinking about relationships in the past three weeks since. We all have a part in the tanking of the relationships we find ourselves in and I wanted to figure out where I personally went wrong. I don't like repeating mistakes so examining under my microscope the workings of the ins and outs of what was good and what wasn't seems important. Previous to this relationship I was single for quite some time. I am not a relationship-jumper, as I think you carry around a far heavier burden of baggage if you do jump from one gal to another quickly.