Homosexual relationships have been decriminalized for already several years in the Republic of Cyprus but Northern Cyprus, territory which belongs to Turkey since 1974, continued to regard them as criminal. A few days ago, the Parliament of Northern Cyprus finally decriminalized same-sex relationships!
In Hong Kong, a psychiatrist has just been engaged to "re-wire" homosexuals as a trainer for its social welfare staff.
The American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Michigan decided to file a lawsuit to fight against a discriminatory new law which prohibits a lot of public entities to provide health care insurance to their employees' domestic partners.
2012 marks the beginning of the civil unions in 2 American states which are Hawaii and Delaware.
The American Psychological Association reports that to prohibit the marriage from gays and lesbians would have "negative effects on their psychological well-being".
Being trans* is not easy for many reasons. Sometimes acceptance is hard to find. There are so many questions, so many what ifs. And I battle against those every day. But the hardest thing for me personally is relationships. I have amazing friends and a great family, but sex, love, connections: those are separate beings. The fact is that label designates an existence outside of the realm of normal experience, even for those in the LGB community who also step outside of those boundaries. If a lesbian dates a transman, what does that mean for her identity? If a straight female dates a transwoman, what does that mean for her identity? Or how does any other combination of trans* person and significant other affect that partner's identity? It takes a strong person to be comfortable enough with themselves and society to date a trans* person.
Sometimes we believe that our role as a partner in a relationship doesn’t involve being the support, back-bone, or even lecturer to the better half. Quite the contrary… Who better to lovingly nag you into doing something you refuse to do but should do but your girlfriend?
Relationships are a fickle thing. It requires a lot of give and take, the issue arises when it must be decided who gives and who takes. In a perfect world a relationship would run like a well-oiled machine; each piece knowing its place and being content with its role no matter how small. But when dealing with people egos get involved, personal self-worth is questioned, and sometimes being in the background can wreak havoc on a relationship.
No one holds all the answers but I hope that my bits of advice can aid in figuring out the complex inner workings of this great beast we call love. If you have any questions that you would like answered, no matter how big or small, do not hesitate to contact me.
There are so many facets to being trans*. Between community, relationships, and transition, it can be difficult to find a place to feel comfortable. But how do you find comfort when your body does not align with your image of yourself? How do you handle dysphoria?
What a week…the only thing perfect enough to go with this moment, aside from international coffee, would be a glass of red wine. (And a cig or three!)
I will be the first one to admit that relationships are hard as hell. I would say that it doesn’t come with a user manual however with all the self-proclaimed fix-it-all’s with their own brand of relationship books for dummies would disagree. I can however state that it sure in the hell doesn’t come with a welcome basket.
Relationships are hard and maintaining them is even harder. What you have to decide is if you are up for the challenge. Sometimes giving up is easier than asking the question if you should or not. At the end of the day when she makes that stupid face, or sings off key in the shower, or rushes by your side before you even realize you’re falling, can be enough to stay.
It’s not easy ladies. But then again like our mothers always say, “Nothing worth having is ever easy. And Momma didn’t make no punk!”
So lace up your combat boots or slip into your stilettos, cozy up to my couch, and tell Spoken all about it…
As the seasons come and go, we began to feel not only a change in the weather but a turning of the tide within our relationships. I am sure that once upon a time loving a lesbian was simply that, just loving her. Now lesbians come in as many personalities as flavors of ice cream and like snowflakes no two are alike. Because the vast amount of titles, roles, and expectations we began to enter a whole new realm of difficulties in regards to relationship dynamics.
Luckily I am well versed in many areas of lesbian love so matter what your vice, identity, or plight, I can help.